6 Books To Read This Year

We’re over half way through the year already. Time sure flies.

This year I set a goal to read 1 book per month. But not just any book – A feel good, make me better, and point me in the right direction book. I also decided to read real books, no electronic version. I’m much less distracted this way, plus I like to underline and highlight things I can reference back to easily. Nerd alert I know! I’m slightly behind schedule, but without further ado, here is my mid-year list.

It’s All Under Control
by Jennifer Dukes Lee

I loved this book – so much that I wrote a whole post about it – which you can read here. If you struggle with worry and control, this is a MUST read! So far it’s my favorite on the list!

Unglued
by Lysa Terkeurst

This is a great book about not letting your emotions rule you and letting those unglued moments find a purpose. I’m not the greatest at controlling my temper, so this book was very relatable for me! Some good quotes from the book:

“Feelings should be indicators, not dictators.”

“My job isn’t to fix the difficult people in my life or enable them to continue disrespectful or abusive behaviors. My job is to be obedient to God in the way I act and respond to those people.”

“When someone else’s actions or statements threaten to pull me into a bad place, I have a choice. I do. It may not feel like it. In fact, it may feel like I’m a slave to my feeling – but I’m not. Remember feelings are indicators, not dictators. They can indicate there is a situation I need to deal with, but they shouldn’t dictate how I react. I have a choice. “

The last quote was a struggle. Sometimes I feel like I don’t have a choice – like I was wronged so bad that what I’m feeling must be an exception. I wish! But nope! We have a choice in how we react.

40 Days of Decrease
By Alicia Britt Chole

I read this book at the start of Lent season and finished it on Easter Sunday. I had high expectations for this book based on the reviews, but I struggled a bit. I like the idea behind it, but had a hard time applying the “fasts” in my day to day life. I guess it felt a little over my spiritual head, if that makes any sense.

Despite it not being my favorite, I did walk away with some good tidbits.

“God seems more interested in what we are becoming than what we are giving up. “

“Faith, in general, is less about the sacrifice of stuff and more about the surrender of our souls.”

At the end of each day, there was a passage from the book of John to read. A good point was made on day four in regards to this. ”We heard no hesitation in John’s voice from the Jordan: Jesus was the one he had been waiting for. However, a year later John’s voice from prison sounded less certain. Surrounded by paid guards instead of volunteer crowds, John sent his disciples to ask Jesus, “Are you the one who was to come, or should we expect someone else?” Ah – doubt. All too familiar with that!

The book also had a few other good quotes – one of my favorites: “No matter how we rationalize, God will sometimes seem unfair from the perspective of a person trapped in time…Not until history has run its course will we understand how ‘all things work together for good. Faith means believing in advance what will only make sense in reverse.” – Philip Yancey

I probably wouldn’t read this book again, but it did have some good takeaways.

I’m Happy For You (Sort of…not really)
by Kay Wills Wyma

I liked this book because I could relate to it so well! Comparison is the thief of joy and I am on the struggle bus when it comes to this topic!

“Being preoccupied with how we measure up personally leads to either pride or humiliation, whereas choosing to focus on and congratulate the other person lifts us both up.”

Comparison is nothing new. The book references Adam and Eve – “Utterly content with all they had and enjoyed in their relationship with God and each other, Adam and Eve accepted that limitation – until Eve’s eyes were opened to the fact that someone else had something she didn’t: the knowledge of good and evil.” I never really thought of their situation in this way until now. Turns out the comparison trap is nothing new!

The book also references Andy Stanley’s message on the land of –ER – I’ve heard this sermon and I think it’s so sadly accurate. “We are daily engaging in a lose-lose activity and we may not even realize how destructive it is. Being rich-er, smart-er, funni-er may feel like a short term win, but for ourselves, our family, our marriage, comparison is a game with no winners.”

Social media struggles and referenced, including some real life examples from normal people like you and me!

The chapter titled Mirror, Mirror was painfully relatable. “My point is, the kids are watching and listening, learning from us how to define what a normal life looks like. We may think the danger lies in the messages sent through music, media, and advertising, but our kids are continually digesting our casual comments to friends over dinner, overheard phone conversations, and daily actions that solidify the message that worth is defined by outward appearances.”

Ouch.

I think at one point or another, every one of us has struggled with comparison. This book is a great read to help with avoiding the comparison trap!

LOVE DOES
by Bob Goff

Very, very interesting book! This guy has had quite the life. Several times throughout the book I found myself saying “No way.” His stories are humorous and supposedly true, although I still can’t believe some of them! I love how he downplayed so many of the unique events as if they were normal! I don’t want to include any spoiler alerts, so I will just leave it at that.

He’s definitely a guy that says “Yes” to God and just about anyone else that wants or needs his assistance. And he goes BIG! It’s a light hearted read that will make you smile, laugh, and think! (And probably think that your life is a little dull and boring!)

The Case for Miracles
by Lee Strobel

The Case for Miracles is about a journalist investigation into the supernatural. I LOVED reading all of the miraculous stories throughout the book. Some of them definitely made me say “Wow – there could be no other explanation but God.” I was surprised that some people will go to great lengths to try to prove it was anything BUT God.

The book was very deep. If you are science minded, this book is for you!

I hope you check some of these out and enjoy!

Are You A Score Keeper

Are you a score keeper?

I’m not referring to the score at your kids soccer game.

Do you keep score?

Funny enough, I accidentally stumbled upon an app on my phone that does just that! Scorekeeper is a Google app that keeps score of whatever you need: a friendly rivalry, good deeds, swear jar. Their sales pitch- if you can score it we can keep it.

Keeping Score

Early on in our marriage, I was a scorekeeper. I could have given you a list of things my husband did that I did never got to do. I spent my time and focus on making that list even.

He went out with friends.

I went out with friends.

He slept in.

I slept in.

He bought something he wanted.

I bought something I wanted.

The convo went something like this:

“Well you did X so I should get to do Z.”

Despite my immature behavior, he was never really much of a scorekeeper, which is probably why we are still happily married!

No Winnners

I can promise you when someone keeps score, no one wins! Now, I’m not saying you should be a door mat and never get to do anything you want to do while your mate lives it up. Scorekeeping is doing something just because your spouse did it.

When you keep score, it’s easy to let your list pile up. They did A, B, C and you file that away somewhere on the scorecard. Then when they do D it’s the straw that breaks the camel’s back.

We have grown older, been married almost 15 years, and had 3 kids. During this time I have learned life isn’t all about me! Really?! Well that kind of sucks! But it’s true. And, when you find someone you love, you want the best for that person.

Fast forward to now- we have a pretty successful marriage by trying to fill up each other’s score cards rather than keeping score for ourselves. That’s not always easy because the world tells us to take care of ourselves, our needs come first, we deserve it. I am an advocate for self care. I can tell when I haven’t been taking care of myself. I get grouchy and start snapping at the kids. But if I spend ALL my time taking care of myself, then that’s not good either.

Natural Born Scorekeepers

Our kids are natural born scorekeepers.

Me: “Girls feed the dogs.

Them: “It’s Emily’s turn I did it last time.”

They know exactly whose turn it is or isn’t and they will tell you! How peaceful would it be if they just did it without arguing? Maybe someday I will be able to report back to you on that one.

The bottom line: Don’t keep score. Worry about yourself. Put others needs ahead of your own.

Skin Care 101

A few weeks ago I celebrated my 39th birthday. My last birthday in my 30’s.

Eek.

Gray hairs are showing up.

Fine lines are appearing.

Years of sunbathing with no sunscreen (gasp) has totally caught up with me.

My friend Whitney, esthetician and former neighbor, has helped me get a good skin care routine to reverse some signs of aging and prevent further damage.

Her advice – keep it basic with 3 simple steps:

Cleanse

Pick a cleanser based on your skin type. Wash your face at least once a day – twice a day is ideal. In my younger years, I would go to bed with a face full of makeup. This is a no-no! She prefers natural skin care products which you can check out here. They are affordable and do not contain a lot of unnecessary ingredients.

Treat

This step is where you can really customize to your needs. If you’re dealing with Rosacea, fine lines and wrinkles, or acne, choose a product that targets these issues. I started using hyaluronic acid. Game changer! This stuff is good. Like most things, you get what you pay for. I use a more affordable cleanser so I can splurge on serums! I have also used a retinoid cream which is a great wrinkle preventative. It also helps with pesky pimples that pop up from time to time. Just be careful – a lot of these products do make you more sensitive to the sun.

Protect

Wear sunscreen every day. EVERY DAY. Cloudy days. Sunny days. In between days. Just do it! Look for a full spectrum sunscreen that is minimum 30 SPF. If you work hard to take care of your skin, all your efforts will be null and void if you don’t protect your skin from further damage. I prefer oil free because I already have oily skin. On super sunny days, reapply often and wear a hat!

Spa or Doctor

If you don’t know where to start or are unsure of your skin type, meet with an esthetician one time to get a facial and plan! They can identify your skin type and recommend products. Estheticians are licensed to work with the epidermis. This layer of your skin correlates to the appearance of your skin. Dermatologists look at your skin from a medical perspective, not necessarily a beauty perspective. They can help with certain skin conditions and also check out your skin to make sure nothinglooks sketchy. I visit a dermatologist once a year for a mole check and an esthetician as often as my bank account allows me!!

Stay Hydrated

When I drink enough water (about half my body weight in ounces) my skin looks so nice! This is hard to keep up with but it’s worth it!

The bottom line

Start now-the sooner the better since prevention is key in skin care!

I am a firm believer that growing old is a privilege. I try to treat and embrace the aging process in a natural and healthy way!

“Your face is marked with lines of life, put there by love and laughter, suffering and tears.” – Lynsay Sands